My ‘Don’t Be a Monkey‘ post prompted some discussion on how to view losses, so I just want to explore that idea a little further. Specifically, Eric commented ‘learn to love loss, and you are on your way.’
Love might not be my chosen word for it, but yeah, that’s the idea. Put it this way…
Last year, we were house hunting with our realtor. When we’d pull up in front of a house that just wasn’t at all our style, we’d offer a preventive “next” to save us all the time of going through a house we just didn’t envision actually buying.
You can’t judge a book by its cover, but some houses you can! Plus, this was a close friend, so he didn’t mind. In fact, he appreciated it. By crossing those no-way houses off our list, it narrowed the search and saved him time.
Couldn’t you view your trades that same way? You could even look at each position as an employee. Poor performance is grounds for dismissal. Take the attitude of “thanks for letting me know you aren’t going to work so I can move on to the next candidate.”
When your trade’s showing you poor price action, don’t get upset. That just might be a gift – a signal to move on to the next idea. No point in getting your feathers ruffled or making it personal. That will only compound your frustration.
Here in the Hideout, I’ve been trading the exact same way. Booking some winners here and losses there, playing the numbers game that trading always is. No single trade carries great importance, but it’s important that losses are viewed properly. A failed breakout or a sluggish move away from a key area means the trade is suspect and may require an adjustment or early exit. I appreciate those warnings from the price action.
And even when in a position, I’m taking note of those subtle changes of character, staying aware of signals the price action may be sending which suggest the trade is struggling.
Recently I entered ADTN upon a breakout attempt at $34, but it just couldn’t stick. A few attempts to clear that level continued to show hesitation, so I tightened my initial stop by 2% on 11/16. I’m glad I did. The stock reversed to stop me out the next day, I booked a tiny 1.7% loss, and moved on to the next trade.

By taking cues from the price action (including failed patterns), it’ll only save you money by way of useful adjustments. Look at those as a courtesy.





Ever seen those monkey traps where they put some bait in a trap, a monkey comes along, sticks its hand through the hole to get the bait, but when making a fist, can’t remove its hand from the trap?
Maybe ‘perfect’ isn’t the right word. We can strive for it, but we’ll all fall short of it given enough time. Greatness, though…that’s attainable. But what does it take to become a great trader?
My take on market makers and specialists is that they just want volume, all day, as they’re selling on the offer and buying on the bid. A few hundred shares here throughout the day add up to a lot. Stocks will naturally gravitate toward key areas of
We all lose here and there, it’s just part of trading. You can’t avoid it, but that isn’t the issue. Where many traders struggle is how to handle a loss gracefully.
Traders are a skittish bunch. We can make the same trade 100 times, but the one time a left-field event occurs, it can spook us forever.




